Aaron Erb Says Brother Noah Warned Him, 'Don't Make an Ass of Yourself' Before Going onThe Bachelorette(Exclusive)

Mar. 15, 2025

Aaron Erb (left), Jenn Tran (middle) and Noah Erb (right).Photo:Disney/John Fleenor, Noah Erb/Instagram

Disney/John Fleenor, Noah Erb/Instagram

Aaron Erbis revealing the advice his twin brotherNoah— and fellow member of Bachelor Nation — gave him before going onThe Bachelorette.

Aaron received major heat from the other contestants onJenn Tran’s season at theMen Tell Allafter he handedDevinaself-growth bookin the middle of an argument in an earlier episode. Talking to PEOPLE, Aaron admits his brother actually gave him that book, along with some guidance he didn’t quite follow.

“I think he said, ‘Don’t make an ass of yourself,’” he says with a laugh. “And I was like, ‘I don’t know what that means.’ But yeah, he’s tried to give me advice, but you just got to figure it out on your own. There really is no advice besides, ‘be yourself.’”

Noah Erb (left) and Aaron Erb (right).Noah Erb/Instagram

Noah Erb/Instagram

As for the book, Aaron says he has read it, and it actually holds some “sentimental” value.

“I’ve read that book a lot,” he explains. “That really started me on my journey of self-discovery. It honestly changed my life. It’s a short read — it’s something I brought because it has some very easy lessons to learn. I didn’t bring a book to intend to give it away.”

Still, he defends his decision to offer it up to Devin, referring to when his brother, Noah, was on the receiving end of a similar situation when he appeared onseason 16ofThe Bachelorette.

“I feel like it was the right move and put myself in someone else’s shoes, [asking myself], ‘How can I care about someone in that moment?’” he says. “So it was funny how much attention it got.”

“Maybe I need to read it again though, honestly,” he adds.

“We were in the womb together, but I don’t think the book’s the move,” Noah said to Aaron. “I don’t think anybody should tell somebody that they are or aren’t ready. We’ve all got our own journey.”

Although he was in hot water for a while, joking that he felt like he was “getting my throat stepped on,” Aaron tells PEOPLE it was nice to be back with the group.

Jenn Tran (left) and Aaron Erb (right).ABC

ABC

“It started off hot and heavy,” he begins. “It’s good to see everyone. I think it was therapeutic in a way for everyone just to get it all out there. I don’t take anything personally. I know it’s all love at the end of the day. But yeah, it definitely got heated, especially when Jenn came out and threw an arrow right at me, which I wasn’t ready for.”

On theJuly 15 episode, Aaron became frustrated with Devin after he pulled Jenn away from a group date for one-on-one time. After confronting Devin with the book, he then told Jenn some of the guys were not there for the right reasons, but wouldn’t name who.

Ultimately, he sent himself home, and later admitted at the tell all that he was referring to Devin, Sam N. and Spencer.

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The Bacheloretteseason 21 finale airs Tuesday, Sept. 3, at 8 p.m. ET on ABC.

source: people.com