Bride and Groom Want Wedding Guests to Buy Food and 'Collectively' Prepare Meals for Three Day Nuptials: 'Excessive'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride and groom want to ask their wedding guests to pitch in on buying and preparing the food at their upcoming wedding.

In aposton Reddit’s popular “Am I The A——” forum a user explained that the bride and groom are considering having their ceremony “at a resort they frequent” that would cost a minimum of “$300 a night” with a minimum stay of three days.

They noted that there is “no restaurant on site” and “the closest town is about an hour away,” so the bride and groom want the wedding party and guests to cook together for the three days and also “collectively” make “the food for the wedding.”

“I told them [that] I felt like it was a lot to expect people to pay that kind of money, stay somewhere for three days and also fully stock kitchens and be expected to make meals the entire time,” the person noted on Reddit.

“They said that if people weren’t up for that they didn’t deserve to be at the wedding,” they added. “I let them know I would not be up for that and worry others would not either, but they disagree.”

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The Redditor noted that the couple would also probably “expect wedding gifts” on top of paying for the wedding weekend, but that it ultimately was too expensive to ask for all of those things.

Another said that if the couple “can’t provideeverything—lodging and catering—they shouldn’t have a wedding out in the middle of nowhere. Period.”

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However, another person offered a different viewpoint, noting that “everyone is entitled to plan a wedding they want,” but they shouldn’t hold it “against people if they decide that they won’t/can’t the time, energy, or money that is required of them to participate.”

source: people.com