Bride Left in Tears After Her Sister Sent a Detailed 'List of Complaints' After Her 'Dream' Wedding in Italy

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride who had just celebrated her “dream wedding” was dismayed to receive “a list of complaints” from her sister after the event.

“My mum hasn’t been to a wedding in 30 years, my sister has been to one wedding, my brother to two. I’ve been to approx 20 weddings,” the bride wrote.She said she and her husband got married in Italy earlier this year, hosting a three-day celebration with 80 guests. They booked a “4-star hotel, paying 50-75% of each room for our bridal party guests — not something we have ever experienced ourselves, but we wanted to make sure all our friends could come,” she explained.

“Our wedding was like a dream, the food, the music, the flowers — it was beyond what I could even imagine and we had such a brilliant time,” she recalled.

The day after the wedding, the bride wrote, her sister — who served as maid-of-honor — inexplicably “wouldn’t talk to me, and instead of staying the last night, she abruptly checked out.”

A week after the wedding, the bride’s sister remained distant with her. Then, “when I asked if she had birthday plans, initially she said she didn’t and then eventually she said she’d planned something with my brother and that I was explicitly not invited because of how I treated her and him at my wedding,” the bride continued.

The sister then sent the bride a long list of reasons why she and their brother felt they were poorly treated at the nuptials. Among them, the sister accused the bride of spending too much time talking with her other guests and dancing with other people than her sister and brother.

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The sister also took issue with the fact that their brother and his girlfriend were seated at the end of the bridal party table instead of next to herself and the bride. She was also upset that the bride didn’t ask her sister and brother to snap pictures together in the photo booth set up at the wedding.

Additionally, the sister complained that their brother “wasted” money buying a suit for the event, and that he and his girlfriend were not thanked in the bride’s speech at the reception.

The sister also griped about her hotel room, accusing the bride of intentionally giving her a smaller room than the other maid-of-honor. “She said that was deliberate — it wasn’t. I didn’t see all the rooms in advance,” the bride wrote.

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The bride said her sister was also “annoyed” that she had to pay a portion of her hotel room cost herself. “She said I should have paid the full cost for her…. implied…I think for her making the effort to come. As for all my bridesmaids, I paid her clothes, shoes and a box of gifts,” the bride wrote.

The bride’s brother also stepped into the fray, telling her he “felt sad” that they didn’t get to spend a lot of time together at the wedding. He also didn’t invite the bride to his birthday party later in the year, furthering the tension between them.

Now, months after the wedding, the bride says her siblings are acting “like nothing happened” — whereas she remains “at a loss to understand it” all.

“I have had therapy and that’s helped, but I still see my siblings at family events, and I get ‘we should hang out more’ texts every so often, but I just don’t want to engage,” she wrote in her post. “They were both really uninterested in the wedding — not asking details, my sister being very unavailable for dress shopping etc., so it really surprised me to get all these complaints afterwards.”

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“Your siblings are quite a pair, aren’t they? It sounds like they wanted you to spend your wedding focusing on how to make them feel special. It was unreasonable for them to expect you to cater to them. Both of them were selfish and went out of their way to make you feel bad. You weren’t obligated to do anything that you did for them,” one person wrote.

Another person added, “Your sister and brother are delusional if they thought you should spend even a moment with them at the wedding.

Yet another commenter person agreed, chiming in: “Most people understand that you don’t attend someone’s wedding tohang outwith them. You attend tocelebratethem.”

One person suggested that the siblings' unnatural response to their sister’s big day could stem from their inexperience with weddings. “Not having any wedding experience, they obviously mistook this trip as a family get-together instead of your actual wedding,” they wrote. “You had much going on, and they didn’t get the attention they thought they deserved. Even if they thought poorly of the trip, to send you a list of complaints shows selfishness, entitlement and complete lack of respect for you.”

The same person also offered the bride some advice: “Keep your distance and enjoy a happy life with your spouse.”

source: people.com