Bride Says Couple Can't Attend Her Wedding After They Sent RSVP 2 Months Late: 'Will Not Be on Seating Chart'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride is putting her foot down when it comes to a few procrastinating wedding guests.

Two months after the RSVP deadline, the couple texted her fiancé “saying ‘can’t wait to see you guys,’ " implying they do in fact plan to attend the wedding. But the bride feels it’s too late.

“We do have space in our wedding, but all vendors have been paid and they will not be on the seating chart. They have not been accounted for with the welcome party or wedding.” she wrote, asking the Reddit community, “Am I the a—— for saying no?”

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“Did you not follow up with people for whom you didn’t receive an rsvp?” one person wrote. “That’s the standard bc plenty of stuff can happen — lost mailed rsvp, website glitch, etc.”

“I received a save the date to a wedding but never got the invite,” one person added, sharing their own experience. “I just thought, well maybe they had to cut the guest list and that’s fine. Luckily the mother of the groom called me and said they didn’t receive our rsvp. I explained the situation and they apologized. We were happy to go. Things get lost in the mail all the time. You should follow up.”

Others argued that the couple’s RSVP deadline was set too early. “2.5 months before the wedding is too early for an RSVP deadline because tons of people don’t know their schedules that far in advance and it can be hard to commit so early. So if I were in your place, I’d allow them to come,” a Redditor wrote.

As for wanting to tell the couple they can’t come, another person accused the bride of being “petty.”

“It seems pretty petty. Maybe they never got the invitation, or their reply got lost,” they wrote. “If they were important enough to make the guest list, why not just be happy they want to come.”

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Someone else urged the bride to consider the couple’s perspective on the situation.

“Imagine you are invited to a wedding. It slips your mind to RSVP and maybe you thought you already did it. Then, you send an excited text to your friends, expressing that you are looking forward to the day. In response, you receive the message that in fact, no, you are not welcome at the event,” they wrote.

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“Weddings are not an opportunity to be needlessly bureaucratic towards the attendees,” they added. “Your guests already have a yearly opportunity for that when they visit the DMV.”

After taking in the honest feedback she received, the bride later edited her post to say she had had a change of heart on the issue. She wrote: “You guys are right, I am being the a——! We told them they could join, and we’re just putting them at a table where there is space. 🙏 Thanks for all of your insight.”

source: people.com