Internet Defends Woman Who Claims Husband Never Prioritizes Her Birthday: 'Know Your Value'

Mar. 15, 2025

A Reddit user asked others if she was overreacting to her husband’s apparent lack of interest in her birthday.Photo:Getty

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“I get that he’s busy and there are things in his routine that are important, but damn, on my birthday you can’t move things around or get them done earlier in the day so we can spend the evening together?” she wrote. “He had 3 hours before I got home even.”

This year, she claimed that “all she asked” for was a bouquet of flowers, “a thoughtful card” and a dinner date.

But when he later asked when the restaurant closed and said that he needed to “read,” “go to the gym” and “go for a run,” she told him that her feelings were hurt.

“That one day out of the year, he can’t prioritize spending time with me and be thoughtful of our time together,” the Redditor added. “I took myself to dinner instead and told him he was on his own and we would try again tomorrow. Am I overreacting?”

Most commenters sided with the Redditor, who said she and her husband have been together for seven years. Many encouraged her to “know your value” in the relationship and “stop accepting” that type of behavior.

“Another social media user called the husband “inconsiderate,” writing, “He absolutely knows what you want and you expect, one day of the year he can’t do that for you.”

Meanwhile, others on Reddit said the woman was “majorly” under-reacting to the situation. “I would never treat someone I even sort of liked in that way, let alone someone I supposedly loved,” read one reply.

In an update, the Redditor said her husband had apologized and “and acknowledged that he does do this every year” around her birthday. She also said he claimed that he had a “fear of coming across as cheesy” and was “feeling insecure.”

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But many of the commenters felt the Redditor still deserved more love and attention from her husband. “When someone is important to you, what is important to you becomes important to them,” one said.

Another user chimed in writing, “Even if birthdays are not important to him, he knows they are important to you, and he should act accordingly. It is literally one day out of the year.”

Meanwhile, others suggested the Redditor simply match her husband’s energy for his next birthday. “Treat ppl as they treat you and give the same energy back,” read only reply.

And when it comes to her next birthday, the Redditor claimed that she might just plan to enjoy her big day on her own.

“I told him I’m booking a trip next year,” she wrote in her update.  “His gift to me can be watching our dogs.”

source: people.com