Lyle Menendez and Wife Rebecca Sneed Split a 'While' Ago, and Now He's Involved with 21-Year-Old (Exclusive)

Mar. 15, 2025

Lyle Menendezand his wife,Rebecca Sneed, quietly ended their marriage after more than 21 years together, but she remains a key figure in his life despite rumors of a cheating scandal Sneed says are baseless, PEOPLE has learned.

The source also addressed Lyle’s romantic relationship with Milly Bucksey, a 21-year-old college student from Manchester, England. The source says Lyle and Bucksey became involved after she wrote him in prison, but she has “only visited him once in jail.”

Reports about Lyle and Bucksey’s romance surfaced earlier this month, prompting Sneed to issue a statement confirming her separation from Lyle. She posted the update on aFacebook pageshe manages for him.

Lyle Menendez and Rebecca Sneed.Courtesy Eugene L. Weems

Courtesy Eugene L. Weems

“Guys! This is NOT a cheating scandal. Lyle and I have been separated for a while now but remain best friends and family,” Sneed wrote on November 21. “I continue to run his Facebook pages, with input from him, and I am forever committed to the enduring fight for Lyle and Erik’s freedom, as has been so evident over the years.”

A preliminary hearing held in Beverly Hills, Calif., for Lyle, left, and Erik Menendez, was postponed Friday as their lawyers fought to keep potentially incriminating evidence out of the case, April 12, 1991. Lyle, 23, and Eric, 20, are charged in the August 1989 shotgun murders of their parents, Jose and Kitty Menendez.Kevork Djansezian/AP

Kevork Djansezian/AP

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Sneed and Menendez, 55, were married in 2003 after knowing each other for a decade. Meanwhile,Erik Menendezhas been married to his wife, Tammi, since 1999.

The Menendez family.ABC

ABC

The Menendez brothers were convicted in 1996 for the 1989murders of their parents,Jose and Kitty Menendez, and sentenced to life in prison without parole. They have consistently maintained that the killings were an act of self-defense following years of sexual and emotional abuse at the hands of Jose, which they say Kitty enabled.

Lyle and Erik’s legal battle continues. with the brothers now awaiting a decision on their possible resentencing, which might enable them to get parole. On Monday, Nov. 25, a judge postponed a scheduled hearing on the resentencing to Jan. 30.

During a preliminary hearing on Nov. 25 at Van Nuys Courthouse West, Judge Michael Jesic said he needed to review “17 boxes” of evidence and rescheduled the Dec. 11 hearing to Jan. 30 and 31.

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source: people.com