Mom-to-Be Wants to Name Baby After Her Grandfather, But Husband Says No for a Personal Reason

Mar. 15, 2025

A man says he and his wife are arguing about what to name their firstborn child — with the wife eager to name him after her maternal grandfather. But her grandfather, it turns out, shares a name with the man’s stepdad — whom he does not like.

In a post shared toReddit, the 30-year-old man writes that the couple are expecting their son in one month.

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He says that his wife “understands” his predicament, but still “wants to honor her grandfather all the same.”

“So I asked her if we could use his middle name instead of his first name. That way she can still honor him but it’s in no way associated with the man my mom is married to,” he continues.

While his wife was initially “upset” at the idea, she came around — but her family has not.

“They weren’t happy about it,” the man writes about his wife’s family, adding: “They told me I should be giving the decision to my wife and sucking it up and dealing with any issues I have with the first name being used.”

And while his wife defended him, the family members still said they “wouldn’t accept” if the couple used another name, he adds.

Commenters on the post say the man is being reasonable with his request, and it’s the family that needs to take a step back.

Adds another, “I think it’s an excellent compromise. Your in laws are probably emotionally driven with their response to it, and hopefully aren’t like this all the time.”

A third sums it up succinctly: “It’s your kid, not your in laws.”

source: people.com