Tori Spelling Admits She Was Relieved When Dean McDermott Announced Their Split amid His Alcohol 'Spiral'

Mar. 15, 2025

From left: Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott attend Fox Winter TCA on February 06, 2019 in Los Angeles, California.Photo:Amy Sussman/Getty

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Tori Spellingfelt a sense of relief whenDean McDermottannounced their split on social media last year.

The surprise announcement came on June 17, 2023 with McDermott, 57, sharinga now-deleted announcementon Instagram that the couple had decided to go their “separate ways” and “start a new journey” apart.

Now, theBeverly Hills, 90210alum, 51, is revealing on the latest episode of her podcastmisSPELLINGthat her estranged husband “apologized” for the post and removed it.

“He was reacting emotionally, and he was still drinking and, you know, he was in that spiral,” she recalled. “But I gotta say, when I saw that post — inside, I was like, ‘Oh, thank god.’”

From left: Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott.Rodin Eckenroth/FilmMagic; Andrew J Cunningham/Getty Images

Rodin Eckenroth/FilmMagic; Andrew J Cunningham/Getty Images

“Because… I don’t know if I could have done it. I want to do it. I want it to be strong enough," she added.

She also asked for sole physical custody of their five minor children —Liam Aaron McDermott, 17,Stella Doreen, 16,Hattie Margaret, 12,Finn Davey, 11 andBeau Dean, 7 — and joint legal custody with McDermott’s visitation rights to be determined at a later date.

Stella Spelling, Tori Spelling, Beau Spelling, Dean McDermott, Finn Spelling, and Hattie Spelling attend the Luskin Orthopaedic Institute for Children, Stand for Kids Gala at Universal Studios Hollywood on June 10, 2023 in Universal City, California.Stefanie Keenan/Getty Images

Stefanie Keenan/Getty Images

In April, Spellingfurther detailed her reactionto McDermott telling her he wanted a divorce — and subsequently, posting about it on Instagram without her knowledge — on herMisSPELLINGpodcast.

“I looked at [his post] and I’m not kidding you guys, I felt like this giant rock had been lifted off my chest,” she shared. “I could breathe deeply, and I was like, ‘Oh my God. He said it. He said it, so now I’m free.'”

McDermott had allegedly threatened a divorce “1 million times,” according to Spelling.

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“I don’t think I’ve ever threatened that, like, ever. And there were times where I desperately wanted it,” Spelling said. “But, like, I would never throw that in someone’s face if I didn’t actually mean it.”

“I didn’t have the balls to leave,” she added, recounting on her reaction to seeing McDermott’s post. “I couldn’t do it and he did it. [I thought] ‘Now I can move on. He’s put it out there. Let’s go. Yes! I needed this,’ you know? Like, I couldn’t do it myself.”

source: people.com