Woman Says Partner Accused Her of 'Wasting Water' After She Took a 26-Minute Shower, Sparking Outrage Online

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman says her partner accused her of wasting water after taking a 26-minute shower — and her account of the accusationis going viralThe woman, who says she and her partner live together, fully detailed their argument with a post on ReAmITheA—— subreddit.The original poster (OP) describes herself as a “female with longer thick hair” who was in the middle of a “full body shower” that included “washing, conditioning hair, shaving all, washing my body, my face,” she said her partner “lost their sh– over how long I’d been in the shower.“Stock image of a shower head.VladK213/Getty"My partner said they were running the sink for as long as I was in the shower and asked if I noticed how much water was wasted then,” the woman recalled. “I asked how I’d be able to hear that run while I was in the shower.” To which her partner replied, “Exactly.“She calculated her shower time due to the length of her playlist, which she says totaled 26 minutes.The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now!Stock image of a bathroom.John Keeble/Getty"I take this length shower once every 3-4 days,” she explained. “I don’t shower every day (because I work from home), but if I do - I’m under 10 minutes with body washed and hair shampooed for a regular wash.“Having asked readers if she’s “the a–hole” for taking 26 minutes to do a “full body” shower, many people spoke their minds in the comment section.“NTA [Not the a——]. He thinks you’re the AH for wasting water but he kept the water running for the entire time? Worst. Water. Policing. Ever,” one person shared.Stock image of a couple arguing.GettyAnother wrote, “NTA. I have never timed my partner’s personal hygiene time. I have also not run water in a sink or flushed a toilet while my partner was in the shower. I could be wrong but responsible, mature adults don’t do that to each other.“Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.Many also questioned their relationship, with another writing, “NTA. If you have long hair, that’s not long. But the issue is not the length of your shower. Your partner is not your owner and you are not his slave. You are equal partners. You get to decide on your own how long you need to shower.”

A woman says her partner accused her of wasting water after taking a 26-minute shower — and her account of the accusationis going viral

The woman, who says she and her partner live together, fully detailed their argument with a post on ReAmITheA—— subreddit.

The original poster (OP) describes herself as a “female with longer thick hair” who was in the middle of a “full body shower” that included “washing, conditioning hair, shaving all, washing my body, my face,” she said her partner “lost their sh– over how long I’d been in the shower.”

Stock image of a shower head.VladK213/Getty

VladK213/Getty

“My partner said they were running the sink for as long as I was in the shower and asked if I noticed how much water was wasted then,” the woman recalled. “I asked how I’d be able to hear that run while I was in the shower.” To which her partner replied, “Exactly.”

She calculated her shower time due to the length of her playlist, which she says totaled 26 minutes.

The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now!

Stock image of a bathroom.John Keeble/Getty

John Keeble/Getty

“I take this length shower once every 3-4 days,” she explained. “I don’t shower every day (because I work from home), but if I do - I’m under 10 minutes with body washed and hair shampooed for a regular wash.”

Having asked readers if she’s “the a–hole” for taking 26 minutes to do a “full body” shower, many people spoke their minds in the comment section.

“NTA [Not the a——]. He thinks you’re the AH for wasting water but he kept the water running for the entire time? Worst. Water. Policing. Ever,” one person shared.

Stock image of a couple arguing.Getty

Getty

Another wrote, “NTA. I have never timed my partner’s personal hygiene time. I have also not run water in a sink or flushed a toilet while my partner was in the shower. I could be wrong but responsible, mature adults don’t do that to each other.”

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Many also questioned their relationship, with another writing, “NTA. If you have long hair, that’s not long. But the issue is not the length of your shower. Your partner is not your owner and you are not his slave. You are equal partners. You get to decide on your own how long you need to shower.”

source: people.com