Woman Says She Won't Plan Wedding Around Her Stepsister's Busy Schedule, Despite Her Mom's Pleas

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride-to-be is stirring conversation online after posting that she won’t change her wedding to accommodate her busy stepsister’s schedule — and now, her mom is “panicked.”

In a postshared anonymously to Reddit, the 26-year-old woman says that she and her fiancé recently set a date for their big day. But shortly after, her mom reached out and “told me that my stepsister couldn’t make it and I should call her up and check different dates to find when would work better,” she writes.

The bride-to-be told her mom that the date wouldn’t be changing, and that “if my stepsister can’t make it then the world won’t end.”

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The woman adds that, for years, the family has worked their schedules around her stepsister, who split her time between the woman’s mom and husband and her own biological mom growing up.

“Christmas every other year was celebrated at a different time because she was with her mom and not us. Family parties were missed if she wasn’t around because Mom was pissed at anyone in the extended family who didn’t make sure my stepsister could be there,” she writes.

When the woman’s mom told her that “immediate family” needs to attend the wedding, the woman put her foot down.

“I told her I have never once considered my stepsister my sibling or my immediate family and I will no longer plan things around her because her attendance is not essential to me.”

“My mom started freaking out on the phone and saying it would really hurt her stepdaughter and husband’s feelings to hear this and how she wanted us all to be together for something as big as a wedding,” the post continues. “She told me she’d pay the difference for a different day and I said no. I told her my days of catering to my stepsister’s schedule are over.”

After her mom “went nuts on the phone,” the woman writes that she “ended the call” and is now avoiding her mom’s calls and texts.

As many commenters have pointed out, the bride-to-be’s mom seems to be signaling she’s taking a side.

“You don’t consider your stepsister as part of your immediate family. Her attendance is not essential to you. Ergo, you shouldn’t change the date of your wedding to accommodate her,” one commenter wrote.

The commenter added: “Your mother will just have to respect that. Otherwise, she’ll just be admitting that her stepdaughter’s feelings are more important than yours about, you know,your own wedding.”

source: people.com