Woman Who Doesn't Have to Drive to Work Anymore Sparks Reddit Debate After Refusing to Give Car to Brother

Mar. 15, 2025

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One Redditor is asking for another opinion after deciding against lending her car to her brother, which she claims did not go over well with some of their family members.

“I use my car a lot less than I used to, but still use my car for food shops, any trips out, visiting family etc.,” said the Redditor, who described herself as a 23-year-old woman.

As the post continued, she claimed that the car her 26-year-old brother shares with his wife “recently broke down beyond repair.”

“My brother told me I have to give him my car until he is able to afford a new one since he needs to drive to work, but this could be a year or two until he’s able to afford a new car,” the Redditor wrote.

The Redditor claimed that “did contemplate lending him her car,” but decided against it because she has “a sick family member who I’ve been visiting weekly to help with food shops and cleaning."

“If I didn’t have my car, I’d no longer be able to visit,” she wrote.

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The Redditor went on to claim some of their family members didn’t agree with her decision.

“Since saying no my sister and dad have also said it’s selfish of me to not give them my car,” she wrote, going on to ask, “Am I the a——?”

Several commenters came to the Redditor’s defense, saying that they felt she wasn’t in the wrong.

“It’s up to your brother to navigate his situation, not up to you fix everything for him. It was a ridiculous ask on his part,” wrote one commenter.

“Stick to your guns” added a second. “You can explain the reason why just like you explained on your question. It’s a valid reason and you don’t owe him anything. He is an adult, and should be able to figure it out himself.

A number of other replies focused on the so-called “entitlement” of the Redditor’s brother.

“You do not owe anybody your car. It’s sad your brother’s broke but that is not your problem,” read one reply. “If he had asked to borrow your car for a while would be one thing (still a huge ask) but this is beyond the pale.”

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Meanwhile, some commenters wrote that if her other family members were so upset about what happened, maybe they should be the ones to take action.

“Tell your dad and your sister that one of them can give their car to him, if they feel so strongly,” read one reply.

source: people.com